Mother’s User Manual in the Voyage of Parenting
Mother, as casual and fun it might sound, the journey of parenting is much more than raising a child. A new mother, a mum to be, a mother who has been midway or :
A mother who is through with most of the responsibilities, whose child is ready to fly the nest, each of us experience different kinds of responsibilities and struggles in the respective phases.
As a parent, we all are striving to make our mark in this journey of parenting and give our child the best of everything at our disposal.
Time being the most precious gift, a child can ask for, which is limited for everyone.
However, it was and always will remain the best investment for a parent, towards his/her child in making their lives emotionally fulfilling, enriching in all aspects, and finally giving them a sense of belonging.
We are all learners in this roller coaster journey, picking up all the “Gyan and implementing it in our lives.
Some works, few don’t. And in the process of learning and unlearning, we create memories….a long-lasting one.
As cliché it might sound, it’s our commitment and our devotion which plays a crucial role in forming an everlasting bond with our children.
Every other element involved is secondary;
The various physical and psychological changes which a child undergoes from birth through adolescence often give parents a run; on how to tackle their child and engage them in a most fruitful manner possible.
I am no expert in the journey called parenting, I too have failed several times. And learning every single day. A few days back, I stumbled upon a post which has provided me with a road map to take my voyage forward.
The valuable facts shared in the post has given me the push, to head in the right direction.
Here’s, the user manual, phase by phase which would require investment towards our children, which finally takes you to bear sweet fruits later.
First Seven Years
Within the first year of the birth of a child, the visible signs of progress can be seen on various fronts.
This is the foundation, as well as the base from which our relationship with them grows.
In the first seven years of life; our goal should be to build a strong connection with our child. If this is rock solid, then the remaining years will be much easier.
We should strive best to create good memories with them, which will be entrenched in their innocent minds.
If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. This is the time to roll up our sleeves and invest heavily in our and their future.
Next Seven Years
This is the time to teach them about family culture, traditions, norms, and all the things to survive throughout their lives.
This is the time when they are sponges and hence, ready to soak up everything we tell them, teach them, show them and do in front of them.
Furthermore, If we built that solid foundation in their foundation years, now they will be more than willing to learn from us. Teaching them sports will introduce them to learning sportsmanship, as well as teamwork.
They gain many benefits of physical fitness as well as, exposure in various spheres of life.
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The Final Seven Years With Us
Once children hit 14, they are probably already full adults and accountable for their actions. This happens at puberty or at age 15 at the latest. At this age, they are mostly out of the picture.
Children achieve independence as well as their personalities manifest, they look more to their peers than parents and families.
During these critical years; most importantly, we need to befriend them, and advise them and do what we can understand that they are now full adults and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If we had worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, then we will be already that trusted confidant, that adviser, that go-to person when they need help or advice.
Hence, be part of their lives and advise them as best we can.
Useful Parenting Tips To Make Your Child’s Growing Years Worthy
Parents are responsible for making the tiny infant into a well-grown, responsible, and caring adult. Positive parenting improves their overall development. All developments are interrelated and cannot be defined under water-tight categories. It is important for parents to actively participate to ensure that the child’s growing years are worthy.
Communication Is The Key
Effective communication is the most important factor in establishing a connection with your children. Let them express themselves freely and hear them out to come to any conclusion. Understand from a child’s perspective and provide them with positive feedback. Make them comfortable in speaking out, without being judgemental. It will make them comfortable.
Remain Sensitive To Your Child’s Need
Never let your child go unheard. Always be there for them, irrespective of how small their needs are. Make your child realize that we understand and will fulfill their needs.
Stay Positive
Negativity is easily sensed by children. Share your problems with them and discuss how you are approaching to deal with them. Make them understand that problems are part of life and one should feel stressed out about it. Discuss what you are doing creatively, how you are coping up, and finding out a solution to the problem by maintaining a positive attitude.
Make Emotional Quotient High-
Love and care always nurture good fruit only when they are cultivated, worked on, nurtured and pruned. Become their confidante, and let them know you are always there for them, no matter what. Show your love and concern for them all the time.
Build Trust, Love, and Fair Play in Relationships
Having a loving and friendly environment nurtures a child in the most positive manner. Children emulate elders and end up doing exactly the same what they see. So therefore a huge responsibility lies on the shoulders of parents to steer them towards an environment that is free from discrimination and foul play.
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Go For Family Get-Togethers
Encourage family time by going out together and spending quality time. A family who bonds over eating and praying stays together. It makes the child feel valuable and important. They will make it a habit to always be together in all activities with family members.
Establish a routine for Eating, Playing, and Sleeping
Make quality time to spend with your kids refraining from television. Stick to a fixed routine for eating, sleeping, and playing together. It will make them build good habits which will remain with them for a lifetime. Children pick routines and mannerisms from home and surroundings.
Show Them Your Unconditional Love and Support
Make efforts to convey that your love for your child is not backed by any condition. Be supportive of them even if they do not score as per your expectation or do not perform well in any activities. A supporting family always stands together and lend a helping hand to build each other up. Let them know that you are there for them even if everything goes wrong.
Show Affection and Care
Children emulate their elders and what they see around. A loving and caring environment will build the child in a way to respect and have compassion for others. While a child who has been living in a quarreling and fighting environment will be the one who feels it is normal and continues to behave with others in the same way.
Speak With Your Child Even If You Are Feeling Tired
Don’t let tiredness become a barrier between you and your child’s quality time. Drop down other works but make a routine to interact with your child for a good amount of time. Talk to them about their day at school, about their peers, teachers, how they performed at class, their peer talks, etc. Share how you spent your day, how you are going the way, an employee is expected to be, how you deal with positivity when faced with challenges, and so on and so forth.
We all have our own ways of raising our children and steering their life for betterment. Share your methods and practices which you employ to build your child’s future that is worthy. How do you bond with your child? What are your approaches to positive parenting? We would love to know.
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